Parenting
Top 6 Books For Supporting Kids Through Grief
I never anticipated having to explain death to my children when they were just 6 and 3 years old. Yet, following a heart-wrenching phone call, I found myself urgently searching online for advice on “how to talk to kids about death” and “how do you inform a child that someone has died?” My dad, their cherished grandfather, unexpectedly passed away. It came as a shock; he wasn’t ill. While I was grappling with my own shattered world and an aching heart, I still had to support my kids through this challenging transition.
Of course, many grieving individuals and numerous experts have had similar conversations with children about death and mourning. I discovered the importance of using direct language (you must say the word “died”) and what phrases to avoid (for example, “they’re always watching you” may frighten young ones). I realized that my 3-year-old might not fully comprehend death, whereas my 6-year-old would be more affected by the loss. This was all true, and as I sat on the couch holding my daughters and crying, I wished I had a children’s book about grief to help them process what was happening. That’s the purpose of this list. These are the books I wish I had on hand to assist my children in understanding grief, and they continue to offer valuable lessons for me as I navigate my own feelings of loss.
The Rabbit Listened
When something sorrowful occurs, Taylor feels lost. Each animal thinks they have the solution, offering their advice, but none provide comfort. Eventually, the rabbit shows up. Its only action is to listen, which is precisely what Taylor needs.
I Miss You Most
This book explores the vibrant bond between a granddaughter and her beloved grandpa, highlighting how she has enriched her life through their relationship and reassures her that he will always remain in her heart, even after his passing. It serves as a gentle starting point for vital discussions about grief as well as a tribute to those we have lost.
Goodbye: A First Conversation About Grief
Although young children are keen observers and ask many questions about their surroundings, adults often hesitate to discuss complex subjects because of uncertainty about where to begin. Research indicates that addressing difficult issues from as early as age 2 can aid children in making sense of their experiences, boost their self-awareness and self-esteem, and help them understand situations that seem unfair. This book seeks to normalize conversations around death by honestly discussing what loss signifies and how it can be felt.
Just What to Do
When observing someone who is feeling down, it’s naturally instinctive to want to lift their spirits. But what is the best way to do so? Some may find comfort in hugs, whereas others may not, and sometimes a light-hearted joke may provide more solace than a greeting card. This book illustrates a vital lesson about offering support to those we love by setting aside personal assumptions and allowing them to guide us in what they need.
We’re Going on a Bear Hunt
The well-known refrain in this classic children’s book serves as a useful analogy for discussing grief with children—’We can’t go over it. We can’t go under it. Oh, no! We’ve got to go through it!’ Much like the family depicted in the story, leaning on those you love makes it easier to navigate through challenging times.
You’ll Find Me
In dealing with the loss of friends, family, or pets, the memories we hold allow us to reflect on the cherished times shared, keeping the memory of lost loved ones alive. This book transitions loss into remembrance and offers gentle ways to honor a loved one’s presence in our current and future experiences.
